Toxic?

I have a friend, shocking huh… lol small attempt at humor there…

Anyhow, this friend has decided she no longer wants to be my friend, sounds so high school doesn’t it. She doesn’t want to be my friend because I chose not to support the relationship she is currently in. In the past 2 years, she has went from happily married with children, to single mom with her 2/3 of her kids in her ex’s custody, and 1/3 of her kids with her.

She met a man, and while she was still married, fell in love with the new guy. So, what did she do, she left her husband, now, I will tell you I was happy she left her husband. He was, and still is a Loser. She worked 3 jobs and was taking college courses towards her degree. He basically laid around spending her money. More times then not, her kids wound up feeding themselves, cleaning the house, and basically being the parent when mom was at work.

She left husband, and started seeing new guy. From the outset, new guy told her he was in a relationship for several years with a woman, this woman was also married, and refused to leave her husband. But they were still in a long distance relationship. New guy also told her if this woman called and said she was leaving her husband, then new guy would dump my friend. Nice huh.

She stayed with new guy.

She found out new guy was carrying on different relationships with different women, one was email based, one text based, and then she was his in person relationship. She still stayed. He remodeled his home because first woman said she was coming to be with him permanently. Still My friend stayed. (first woman never showed)

She became obsessed with new guy. Not in a good way. Since they first met, she has left her husband, quit school, her kids are now with their dad, and she has distanced herself from all her friends and family. All to be with new guy.

I never thought I would see her give up her kids to their dad. And I say give up because when asked what happened, she says the dad and kids plotted against her, the kids said mean things to her and were hateful to her. ?????? Last I heard that was adolescence.

She is divorced now, and new guy still hasn’t married her. She says she is happy and all this is God’s will.

I haven’t kept my opinion to myself. She knows I think she’s making a huge mistake. She knows everyone who loves her thinks she’s making a huge mistake. She herself said she has lost many friends and family over this relationship.

My question is, if that many people around her see it is toxic, then why can’t she?